This morning, I’ve read several posts that have been reinforcing something I’ve been mulling over for a while. I am responsible for my own experience. I get to choose how I feel and think about all circumstances in my life. When I listen to the negative things others say about me or to me and let that determine my day, well I have given my power away to them.
Who holds power over your life?
From an early age, we are taught that we have to deny ourselves and hand our power for happiness over to others. This is continually reinforced by the culture we live in.
The truth is, you have so much more power than you realize to create your own world and future. We get to choose how we feel about everything. We get to choose whose words we let into our being. We all have strengths and weaknesses. I’m not asking you to deny your weaknesses. I’m asking you to affirm all your goodness and create more of that.
Here’s what Karen P. Foster shared on her website, Engaging Inner Wisdom
If you spend time engaging your inner wisdom when things are going well, it will be there when things are not going so well. It is where you will find the strength to get out of a bad relationship, stop allowing yourself to be treated without respect, stand up for injustice, and even process personal tragedy.
Let me give you a simple example. Two days ago, I saw a little girl who lives on my street; she was crying. When I asked her what was wrong, she said her brother called her a mean name. So, I said, “What if I call you a name that isn’t mean? Will that make you stop crying?”
She looked at me confused.
“Well,” I went on, “What if I call you pretty? Does that make you want to cry?”
“No,” she fought a smile.
“You are pretty. You know that right?”
I covered her lips with my finger. “What if I called you smart? Everyone on the street always says how smart you are. Are you smart?”
“Yes,” the smile was a little harder to hold back.
“What about the dance you did at the block party? It was good. You’re a good dancer.”
She smiled as she wiped her eyes.
“Now, if you know that you are smart and pretty and a good dancer, why would you let one little thing that your brother said, that isn’t true, make you so sad?”
She smiled at me, stood up and went back to playing.
I loved the gift she gave this young girl. May she carry it with her for life.