Coach, Consultant, Convener of Conversations that Matter
My life, today, is all about building connections and community. I want to do that, and I want to help others do that, where ever I show up for the rest of my life.
I want everyone to be seen, heard, and valued for who they are and for the gift they are. Frankly, I believe we are going to need everyone’s gifts to save this country and the world.
This journey has not been easy for me. It has required me to let go of my need for power and control, to replace my certainty with curiosity, to let go of my need to be right and blame others, and replace it with personal ownership and accountability. I had to learn everything is an invitation, because I always get to choose my attitude about whatever the situation is, and so do you.
A few years ago, I discovered Brene Brown’s work. She has given me language and vocabulary to explain what I have done intuitively. She has taught me the importance and power of vulnerability to build compassion, connection, and courage into my life and help others to do the same.
This past year with all the violence in our country, I have had my doubts that we could shift the conversation and build compassion and community into this country. My concern has inspired me to take a deep dive into learning more about bias and racism. I began my studies last October, by meeting every week for two hours for conversation with my friend, Barbara Dixon to discuss bias and racism and how it is showing up in her life and mine. Then in August, I completed an intense 4 week online course by Patti Digh called Hard Conversations-Intro to Racism. What I thought I knew about bias and racism has been turned upside down. It has caused a major shift in my life and my perceptions and given me a huge dose of reality.
Today, all of this and more are incorporated into the work I love; helping others to practice speaking authentically from their heart, building connections and community, and improving relationships.
My toolkit contains A Small Group’s Six Conversations, Open Space technology, World Cafe, Art of Hosting, Brene’ Brown’s work, the Blueprint of We, and Immunity to Change. All of these help me to hold conversations that matter.
If you or your group needs a conversation guide or coach, please contact me.
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Recommendation from Peter Block: “Elaine brings a fine combination of clarity, sensitivity and humanity into her work. She listens carefully, has a breadth of experience to draw on and knows what it means to meet commitments. She is an elegant host and will raise and deepen the level of conversation every time she shows up. It is a pleasure to recommend her.”
Elaine is a licensed facilitator of:
Immunity to Change from Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey.
Current to Past Projects:
Co-designed and co-facilitated gatherings and events with Barbara Dixon on bias – Shared Values-Different Perspectives…a conversation on bias – 2015
Coaching Frank Downie – organizer for PROTOCOL of Lindenwald neighbor – 2014-2015
Partnered with Sarah Woiteshek Pietzuch, Director of Miami University Hamilton Center for Civic Engagement and facilitated 3 monthly gatherings at Miami University Downtown – 2014
Planned and facilitated Mobo Bicycle Coop and the Village Green Board Retreat to focus on conflict and reconciliation for team – 2012
Co-designed and facilitated – Creative Collaborative Women’s Retreat – 2012 and 2013
Co-design and co-facilitate – Monthly virtual A Small Group in the Clouds conversations using MaestroConference – 2011 to present
Co-facilitator and project manager for A Small Group quarterly intensives with Peter Block – 2009 to present
Member of Standing Room Only Toastmasters Club – current President. – 2009 to present
Lead Facilitator for Life Skill Courses at Vineyard Community Church – 1998-2003
Facilitator for NCCJ Diversity Workshop and co-chair diversity committee – 1988-1990